Navigating transitions with grace, ease…. and the occasional freak-out
We did it. My family has moved to Denver. I know that may come as a surprise to some of you, and I apologize for not staying in touch. The Cavannas have been engaged in heroic acts of familial re-creation are just beginning to come up for air and reflection. People ask me, …
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On Love and Weed Eaters
“We need courage, not fight”- Lucia Cavanna, age 4 Greetings from sunny Colorado! I’d like to take a moment and share a little story about a weed eater. So, I drove my gas powered weed eater out from California over a month ago to deal with my overgrown back yard. It hadn’t been started …
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Maintaining the Prayers of Life
“Live a life of friction. Let yourself be disturbed as much as possible, but observe.” ― G.I. Gurdjieff Greetings Friends, In my last letter I shared about our process of moving to Denver. Part of my prayer for buying a home and moving here is to apprentice myself more deeply to material …
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Receiving the Relief
We did it. My family has moved to Denver. I know that may come as a surprise to some of you, and I apologize for not staying in touch. Our family has been engaged in heroic acts of re-creation are just beginning to come up for air and reflection. People ask me, …
Read MoreAttachment parenting and the importance of transitions
Putting my daughter Lucia to bed last night I was reminded of the importance of paying attention to the transitions with her. It was late, I was tagging in after Mommy’s turn and I had school work to do before the end of the evening so was more rushed than …
Read MoreHealthy Dependency as a Path to Joy
People often ask me how I got interested in healing birth trauma and I tell them my interest in birth grew out of my experiences with death. Birthing and Dying are similar processes: they both teach us how to live and how to love. Healing in this liminal space is the …
Read MoreWhat exactly is a “Birthshop” and who is it for?
Hi friends. I was talking to a colleague about the Birthshops the other day and despite all that I had written about the work, they still didn’t have a clear sense of what it was and who it was for. So I made this short video to give a brief …
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The baby’s time in the womb is a third of its life.
Your time in the womb can be considered a third of your life. I can imagine some of you thinking, “that’s crazy”…but its true. Watch the video to find out why.
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Emotional Carrying Capacity: How to be HERE in the face of life’s challenges
One of the goals of my work with clients is to help them increase what I call “emotional current carrying capacity.” We work together to help them be more physically and emotionally resilient and capable of deeply experiencing and metabolizing the events of their lives so they can meet the …
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Yulia Draschil’s article on Birth into Being
(For those of you who are considering attending a Birthshop or are just interested in learning more about the work, I recommend reading this article by my friend and colleague Yulia Draschil who is a Birth into Being practitioner, midwife and mother). People’s pregnant bodies and parenting journeys have …
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Rules for Being Human
I found this in an old e-mail I had sent a friend years ago. I didn’t write it but it was circulating around amongst students at a spiritual school I was going to at the time. The rules rise out of a conception of life and growth that is larger …
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Getting over myself in order to be a better Father
I’m beginning to understand that my child doesn’t need ME and MY DEAL very much for her healthy growth. As a parent part of my role is to provide boundaries for her safety, but she is not an empty vessel that I have to fill up with my ideas, preferences and opinions. What she …
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Family Constellations: Composting our Ancestral Soil.
Family Constellations is a healing system developed by Burt Hellinger that are designed to unwind systemic entanglements within Families, Businesses, and any other organization . The principle with families, is that when there has been an unaddressed trauma in a family system in a previous generation (like abuse, war, exile, suicide, divorce, etc), …
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My journey as a healer.
I have recognized over the course of my development as a healer, both working with myself and others, that different tools were needed at different times. I began my path as a bodyworker and was able to do powerful work in that modality but I recognized that I could only …
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Thoughts on the first month of Fatherhood
*First of all, thank you to everyone who has supported us with food, well wishes, prayers and all sorts of kindness that we never could have anticipated. We are so grateful. May all of your lives be blessed. *Wow. I have been planning and preparing myself for this child for …
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Why would anyone need to heal their birth trauma? Is that even possible?
We come into the world primed to receive love and whatever we experience, however loving or not, will get imprinted deeply into our nervous system as a valid expression of “Love.” How we are received by the world teaches us, at a cellular level, who we are, what our value …
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